Hey, Esha here – one half of the Events by Ashé dynamic duo. I’m about to tell you a story. 7 years ago my husband Tarik and I made a bet. If he took yoga with me, then I would learn how to swim so we could go scuba diving. Actually we need to rewind a bit more…okay…rewind A LOT more.
Apparently, as a child (so my mother reminds me), she wanted to send me to swimming classes and I said I didn’t want to go. And yes, I am one of those people with Caribbean blood (I actually grew up on the island of Trinidad) who never learned how to swim.
Back to the bet…Tarik upheld his part of the bargain and took hot yoga with me in Toronto in 2009. Ummm, it’s now 2016 and I still haven’t learned how to swim. That is until about a month ago when, for the umpteenth time, my wonderful hubby asked me, “Babe, did you register for your swimming lessons?”
Now you have to understand something about my husband. He is one of those supremely patient, kind and loving men. If you say you’re going to do something, he’ll be patient and wait for you to do it until you give him permission to do it for you. It seems like 6 years have gone by and I can’t recall him asking me about it during this time. But (of course) I brought up that I was thinking about taking swimming lessons sometime this year and behold, it’s now back on his radar.
He knew I was procrastinating on this. Heck, it’s been a few months since I’ve been telling him in my most loving voice, “Yes, I’m getting around to it.” Whenever I say that, he knows I’m procrastinating. Now you need to know something about me. When I really want to do something, it’s already done. So, yeah I was definitely procrastinating with the booking of my swimming lessons.
When he asked me the question this time, I responded the same way. He then asked his usual follow up question, “Would you like me to look into it for you?” Usually my answer would be, “No, it’s okay. I’ll do it.” But this time I said reluctantly, “Okay, only if you want to baby.”
Fast forward 4 weeks later and I’m sitting at the side of a YMCA pool with a tight-as-hell swim cap on, in my bathing suit and flip flops. Not only did my wonderful husband book my swimming lessons, he also bought me a swim cap, goggles AND a water resistant bag to put all of my swim gear in. He was happier than a pig in “you-know-what” that I was FINALLY taking swimming lessons!
And that leaves me at the side of the YMCA pool *almost* ready to take the plunge. It got me to thinking, aren’t many things in life like this? The thing that we least want to do, we typically drag our feet to do it? I’ve always had a love-hate-fear thing with water. If I’ve been in water, I’ve always been able to stand in it. Depending on my mood there have been times that I would just say, “I don’t do water,” (with the obligatory “diva” toss of my hair). Then everyone would laugh and move on. As I laid on the sand or boat and watched everyone else swimming around, a secret part of me would long to be swimming too.
Have you ever felt this way? Watching everyone with secret longing doing what you’d like to do too? As I came down the pool steps, my heart was beating so fast, I almost ran back to the change room. But I didn’t. The water was warm, which was a nice surprise. The swim instructor was very nice and the other “adult swimmers” seemed more petrified than I was! Okay…this isn’t so bad. As we went through some of the exercises, I thought about a few things:
- It’s amazing what stories your mind can create around a fearful situation.
- When I get out of my own way, good and interesting things can happen.
- Okay, taking the plunge wasn’t so bad. All I needed to do was try!
So now I’m on lesson number 4 and I haven’t drowned (surprise). I’m actually excited about my next lesson and I’m ready to be truly FREE in the water!
What have you taken the plunge to do today? I’m curious to hear from you; leave a comment below. Thanks for reading!
Til de next lime,
Esha and Tarik
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